Monthly Archives: May 2012

Judge a Book by its Cover?

If we are friends on any social media website then you would know that I just came back from a trip to Miami. I had a wonderful time and have a lot of material to blog about, which brings me to my first post…

During my 3-day trip to Miami, I visited South Beach on Saturday evening and Monday afternoon. For anyone who has not been to Miami, let me be the first to tell you how beautiful it is near the water.

It was near the beach on Saturday night that I saw a lot of disturbing things.  I saw some of the most outlandish outfits I’ve ever seen in my life. Granted we were near the beach, it was after 10pm and women still had on bathing suits and bikinis. Most with no coverup. Aside from the beach wear (at night), I saw butt cheeks hanging out of shorts and breasts bulging from every angle. Then I saw several women being fondled by men and some didn’t even attempt to pull away. Immediately I thought about the discussion about women having the right to wear whatever they want without being disrespected.

Unfortunately, this is not our reality. I do believe women have the right to wear anything they want, but it will come with some consequences whether we like it or not. Why do some women choose to dress so inappropriately? Are they looking for attention? And when I say inappropriately dressed, I mean if your picture was placed side by side with the local prostitute there wouldn’t be any distinction of which woman was a street-walker. Now, I understand that women, including myself, like to look and feel sexy, but there are so many ways to do that without dressing inappropriately. Don’t get me wrong, I DON’T THINK ANYONE SHOULD BE DISRESPECTED BY ANY MEANS.  However, I do think women should be aware that unfortunately in today’s society SOME men relate inappropriate dress with disrespectful behavior. I think as women we have to put  more consideration and thought into how we want to be perceived because whether we know it or not, we are always being watched.

Here’s another way of thinking about it: If you see a dirty man with holes in every piece of clothing he’s wearing and raggedy shoes, you’d probably assume he was living on the street, right? Or if a woman came to your job with a navy blue pin-striped business suit and her hair pulled back, you would assume she was some type of professional, correct? Now, if you saw a young lady walking down Park Avenue with a fish net skirt showing her thong and a plunging neckline showcasing her leopard print bra, what would you think? Many people (women included) would think something disrespectful and not act on it, but unfortunately everyone doesn’t practice self-control.

Yes, women are disrespected even if they’re not proactively dressed. However, the way we dress is something we can control. It’s not like your nationality or the color of your eyes. I’m basically trying to say that it’s not fair to be disrespected for your choice of clothing, but be mindful that the way you dress opens doors to interpretation, negative or positive. We are more than what we wear, but the way we dress speaks volumes. It is up to us to decide what is said.

Take pride in all that you do.

Here’s some additional readings that you may find interesting:

East Coast Finals: Boston vs. Miami

I am a huge Ray Allen fan. So, this shouldn’t come as any surprise… Gooooo Celtics!!!

Steve Harvey’s Straight Talk, No Chaser

I received this book as a Christmas gift last year. I didn’t ask for it nor was I enthusiastic about reading it. However, I thought that it wouldn’t hurt to check it out especially since I haven’t picked up a leisure book since only God knows when. Growing up I loved reading and upon finishing  this book I realized that I still love reading. Unfortunately, during my undergraduate studies I was constantly forced to read textbook after textbook, which brought me to lose interest in reading outside of what was required of me. However, that is neither here nor there.

I have not read Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man in its entirety. I’ve only read bits and pieces of  chapters that I thought seemed amusing. I didn’t think it was necessary for me to read the first book prior to reading the second, and I still don’t. Matter of fact, I don’t plan on finishing the first book at all.

Going into this book, I thought I was going to be preached to and topics were going to seem repetitive. I also assumed that I was going to discover how to find, keep and understand a man. While I did learn a few things, I found that a lot of the information shared were things women should already know like the topic about nagging. I am guilty of this at times, but I am aware of how annoying it can be. No one, women included, wants to be nagged all the time about anything! Another example of this is the section called, “Art of the Deal”. Steve mentioned that people negotiate all the time. Is this information supposed to be new? In any relationship, negotiation is a requirement. Duh!

While reading this book, I felt like Steve was trying to convince me that I needed to change who I am to better suit a man. At times, it seemed as though Steve was contradicting himself. Although he advertently stated that in a relationship there needs to be a level playing field in order for it to work, he constantly implied that women basically needed to put forth more effort. Confusing? Yeah, I know.

However, as I mentioned before I did learn some things from Steve. I enjoyed reading the section titled, “Showing Your Appreciation”. While, I don’t think it’s necessary to constantly praise someone for things they should do without hesitation; I now understand how important it is to voice your appreciation from time to time. It’s always uplifting to be praised for things you’re not expected to do, but to be given recognition for things you are expected to do can go a long way. Although I enjoyed reading about showing appreciation, my favorite section was “Dollars and Sense”. I think this section gave great insight on what a man is really feeling during tough times and how to support him as he is experiencing it. This section did put things into perspective.

Overall, this book was easy to read and follow along. It did provide useful insight on relationships, specifically from the male point of view. As women, I think we like to only look at situations as we see them without taking in account others’ views. I think the purpose of this book was to help us view things differently and act accordingly. I would have liked to see some of that information shared spun in a different light rather than being re-gifted. While not all of the information was new to me that doesn’t mean it won’t be new to someone else. With that said, I do recommend that women read this book as they may find valuable information that is specific to their lives and current situations.

Mr. Dunderbak’s Restaurant, Tampa

I had the pleasure of dining at Mr. Dunderbak’s located on Bruce B. Downs in Tampa on Sunday, 5/20. Mr. Dunderbak’s serves German-inspired cuisine and has been around for 40 years. My experience here was awesome!

Although, this is my Dad’s favorite restaurant in the Tampa Bay area, I must admit that I was worried I wouldn’t find anything to eat because I no longer consume beef or pork. However, I was able to locate a few things on the menu that I could try.

I started off my dining experience with the Homemade German Potato Pancakes. I’ve never tried potato pancakes, but I’m glad I tried these. They were served with applesauce and sour cream. I asked our server which condiment was better and he convinced me to try both, together. I was hesitant and made a funny face, but I tried it and absolutely LOVED it. The sour cream and applesauce complimented each other and provided a unique taste for the potato pancakes. For my entrée, I ordered the BBQ Chicken Breast Sandwich . It was marinated in honey mustard and topped with BBQ sauce, lettuce and tomato. The sandwich was flavorful and marinated well.  As my side, I ordered the pommefrites, which are fried potatoes.  The pommefrittes were sliced, fried and salted to perfection. Unfortunately for my diet, I was feeling greedy so I also ordered dessert, the Vienna Homemade Apple Strudel. I wasn’t too fond of this because it contained raisins and was lacking in the flavor department, but this did not taint my dining experience. Overall my meal was really good.

Now, on to the service… Our server was Casey and he was great! He was very knowledgeable on EVERYTHING from the food to the wine. He answered all of our questions honestly and thoroughly. He made recommendations and made sure we were taken care of the entire time. I was very pleased with the service I received.

I would most certainly recommend this restaurant to everyone. On a scale 1-10 (ten being excellent), I’d rate it an 8.  On my next visit to Mr. Dunderbak’s, I plan on bringing a friend or two so they can experience this awesome establishment!

An added bonus is that they have in-house shop where you can purchase cheese, sausage, beer, and more.

For more information, please visit their Facebook page:!/pages/Mr-Dunderbaks/106370033695

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