Monthly Archives: March 2013

Church & 6in Heels

Losing LeBron Documentary

FOW

Anyone who really knows me, knows that I am a bit of a tomboy. I’ve definitely become more interested in “girly” things, but honestly, I’d rather rock a pair of sneakers over heels any day. It should come as no surprise that this is one of my favorite type of get-ups. I am completely comfortable in this outfit. I did want to add a bit of feminine flavor though. So, I opted for a red lipstick, MAC Ruby Woo.

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Graphic T-Shirt: Target

Shorts: Sam’s Club

Combat Boots: Traffic

Steubenville Rape

imagesThe verdict is in. The two young boys involved in the rape of a 16-year-old drunken girl have been found guilty.Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond inserted their fingers in a girl who was unable to consent. In the state of Ohio, this is considered rape. Mays may have to serve a minimum of two years in a juvenile detention center, and Richmond will have to serve a minimum of one. Both boys will have to register as sex offenders, and undergo treatment while in detention. There’s a possibility that the boys will stay longer, but it’s dependent on their behavior and treatment.

After reading several articles on this matter, I have a lot of things floating around in my head. For instance, why are these kids getting plastered, and who is supplying the alcohol? I hope there is further investigation into where these kids were able to purchase the booze, and who was supplying it the minors. None of the neighbors thought to call the police to report an unsupervised house party full of underage drinking teenagers? In college, plenty of parties were shut down by the police, and most of us could drink legally. The adults who supplied the alcohol should definitely be held accountable. Another thing I don’t understand is how these boys didn’t understand that what they were doing was wrong. Have they never watched a single episode of Law & Order SVU???  In high school I learned that a drunken person cannot give consent. So, I can’t imagine that they were completely oblivious to that simple fact. If by some mere chance they didn’t know, why would they want to do sexual things to someone who wasn’t coherent? Something else that I just don’t get is that the victim is being blamed. How wretched is that?  I read an article that included comments made on a social media account belonging to a Deidre Myers’ about how the girl who was raped, was the town’s “train whore”. I guess being promiscuous gives people the right to take advantage of you. Furthermore, people witnessed the attacks and pictures/video of the encounter were uploaded to social media sites. So, everyone was okay with this? No one thought it was wrong? It doesn’t make sense. People can’t be that ignorant. Can they?

largeThe more I read about this case, the more I am deeply disgusted. The parent of an old friend of the rape victim allegedly said publicly that she hoped the girl got AIDS. Seriously? How could a a MOTHER say that? This young girl’s life will never be the same. Never. In my opinion, these boys are lucky that they weren’t tried as adults and sent to prison. Granted they have to register as sex offenders forever, but they should have to suffer some real consequences. Their lives should be rattled just like the victim’s was. I believe that people reap what they sow. So, all of these people lashing out at the victim, adults and teens included, will get what they deserve. One should never wish ill on anyone else. It’s not humane nor is moral. Two teenage girls were just arrested for making online threats against the victim. Dumb move by the girls; smart move by the police. I wonder if the people who support these boys and their actions have some intense desire to belong? Are the football players and those who are connected to them held with such high regard that people will disregard what’s right in order to fit in and be accepted? In this case, it definitely looks like it.

It appears that it’s an either “for us or against us” mentality in this community. I’ve read over and over about how this community compares to Friday Night Lights. If that’s the case, I’m worried that this isn’t the first time this has happened. Social Media has only been playing a major role in the lives of our youth for a few years. So, what’s happened there before Twitter and Facebook became mainstream? Needless to say, victims probably won’t want to speak up now because of all the  garbage thrown at the victim. No need to further divide this community over the God-given rights of individuals, right? It breaks my heart that things like this happen. I didn’t have to read about particular case to know that situations like this happen all the time. However, I can appreciate that light was shed on this case, and maybe it will help people get a better grasp on the world we live in. Maybe this case will even make people want to change things about their lives and their community.

To end on a positive note, I want to say that it was very commendable of the people who spoke out on behalf of the rape victim, and those who brought attention to this case. There is good in this world. Not to mention, it was very brave and courageous for the girl to take the stand even if she didn’t recall what happened that evening (thankfully social media did). I hope she gets the help she needs to help her live a prosperous life.PS_0

Here’s more on the Steubenville rape case:

http://abcnews.go.com/2020/steubenville-rape-case-story-heard/story?id=18705357

http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/17/justice/ohio-steubenville-case/index.html

http://www.theatlanticwire.com/national/2013/01/steubenville-high-football-rape-crew/60554/

http://thelede.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/03/18/how-blogger-helped-steubenville-rape-case-unfold-online/

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