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Boston Marathon Bombing Reflection

Explosions At 117th Boston MarathonThe bombing that took place at the Boston Marathon is a tragedy. Lives were lost including the life of an 8-year-old boy. Several people were injured, and limbs were lost.  In the wake of this event, people across the country and world were brought together in mourning over another act of terrorism. Prayer chains were sent out via social media sites including Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. As we continue to learn more about what occurred that day, it reassured us that anything can happen anywhere at any time. It’s a scary thought, but we cannot and should not allow it to dictate our lives.

During times like this, we often experience a series of emotions and thoughts.  We grieve for the families that were affected, and we feel a sense of patriotism because the attack took place on American soil. But what about the thoughts we have about who is to blame for causing such destruction? In reading tweets and Facebook posts during the early stages of the Boston Marathon Bombing, people already began to speculate as to who it could be. Well, rather the nationality of the offenders.

It saddens me that in this day of age, people still discriminate against whole groups of people because of what certain people do. A lot of people assumed that the men who committed the horrendous acts at the Boston Marathon were of Middle Eastern decent. Needless to say, a lot of people were surprised to find out that the suspects were Russian, and both of them were granted American citizenship. When people commit these types of acts or any criminal act, it shouldn’t matter what their decent is because not every one of that particular background is like that.

I can honestly say that I had no thoughts of who might have committed the crimes, but I was definitely eager to find out. Not so that I can see which nationality they belonged to, but so they could be brought to justice. People have to do a better job; not only for themselves, but for future generations. Discriminatory, racist, and bias thinking is learned. At times, people subconsciously make assumptions. The best way to handle that is to realize that you’ve made an assumption, and work to remove it from your perception so that you can view things without bias. Viewing the world with blinders on is a completely dated mentality. Not everything is in black and white; there is a massive amount of gray area. The sense of patriotism and togetherness that Americans feel at times like this shouldn’t only occur when bad things happen. Nor should it be used to feel resentment toward groups of people. That feeling of strength and togetherness and hope that Americans feel should be felt ALWAYS.

I know this post probably won’t affect too many people because people tend to get stuck in their ways and their way of thinking, but I thought it was something that had to be said. Local residents attend a candlelight vigil in the Dorchester neighborhood of Boston

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5 Dating Red Flags [4 the Ladies]

top-five-dating-safety-red-flags-largeOver the past week or so, I’ve read a couple of blogs about dating. I was inspired to write this piece based on what I read.  Women sometimes need help with identifying red flags when a guy begins to show interest. Some red flags may not be as evident as others. With that said, I’ve come up with 5 Red Flags that all women should be aware of.

  1. Bae/Boo/Baby. This is really weird. If a guy calls you bae/boo/baby right off the back, chances are he’s a clinger. You may want to Harlem shake out of the clinch. These are terms of endearment and should only be used when you’ve been dating someone for a significant amount of time.
  2. “I miss you.” If you’ve only met once or a couple of times, and the guy is already claiming to miss you. Please run in the opposite direction. How can you miss someone you don’t know? It seems to me that the guy is just trying to say something he thinks you may like, and if he’s willing to do that then he probably has ulterior motives.
  3. All text. No call. If a guy only texts you and never calls that is a problem. You can’t get to know a person through text. Speaking over the phone doesn’t allow for a lapse between responses, and you can also hear his tone when he speaks. If he only texts you, he may have something to hide like a girlfriend. Lol.
  4. “What’s the freakiest thing you’ve done?” If a guy is asking a lot of questions related to sex. Stop. Drop. And Roll out of there!  It’s extremely likely that is all he is concerned with. There’s a time and place for everything. Asking what your favorite position is on the first telephone conversation you have is definitely a no-go!
  5. Social Media stalking. If he immediately sends you a friend request on Facebook, follows you on Twitter and Instagram, likes all your pictures, retweets all your tweets, and comments on everything you post, he’s crazy. This is a sure sign he’s a stalker. No one likes to be stalked, so ease out of that situation by limiting what he can see.

What are some of your red flags? Please share!

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Here’s the Fit of the Week! Pairing leggings with dresses really make for an awesome outfit. I wasn’t feeling very bright. So, I just wore dark colors. Not to mention it was raining, which made it one of those days. I was going to wear a pair of Ugg-style boots, but decided to go with the combat boots. I think the boots added a bit of flair to the outfit. I like combing different styles to complete an outfit. Although I didn’t want to wear any bright colors, I added color through my makeup. I think this is another way to add color to a dark/dull colored outfit.

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Cardigan: Dillards

Leopard Dress: Target

Leggings: Target

Combat Boots: Traffic

Skinny Belt: Unsure

RiRi & Breezy Official

brown1Recently, Rihanna has come forth confirming her relationship with Chris Brown. No big surprise there. An official confirmation, in my opinion, wasn’t necessary. It was quite obvious that the two has rekindled their flame for some time now. Not to mention, there are constant uploads to RiRi’s Instagram account with pictures of her and Brown in intimate positions.

The pair’s actions have been screaming for attention, which is quite contradictory to what they say in the media. Rihanna and C.B. even paired up for her last album to create the song, Nobody’s Business. The thing is that with all the attention they’re trying to create for themselves, they’re doing just the opposite of what they supposedly want people to do. Yeah, it’s nobody’s business, but yet their actions show that they want the world to be in their business. If a celebrity really wants to have some kind of private romantic life, it’s hard, but possible.

I will say that I do like both artists’ music, but other than that I could careless about either one, more so Chris Brown. I don’t think he’s learned a lesson, and that he’s this new and improved person. Since the incident, he’s gotten into fights with other celebrities, thrown chairs, and never shy of a Twitter rant full of expletives. It appears that he has an anger issue. Yeah, yeah. I get the whole ‘he’s human’ thing, but other humans who have been in a domestic abuse situation have made noticeable changes in their lives. In my opinion, it doesn’t appear that he has.

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Now, what bothers me about Rihanna is that I don’t believe she ever wanted to leave him in the first place. I think she only did it because the media was coming down on her and her image. I am willing to bet that she hasn’t stopped communicating with him since the incident. Why take everyone through this roller coaster ride, knowing that you never wanted to leave his side in the beginning? I don’t think you can really get over a person, if that’s what you intend, by continuing to communicate and be around that person. So, in my opinion, I don’t think getting over him and moving on with her life is what she intended to do.

No one knows what happened back in 2009, but the end result was that Rihanna got beat up badly. We don’t know if she provoked him, which is possible, but what we do know is that the beating she got was violent. It wasn’t just one or two punches, or a push. Brown hit her repeatedly, and I haven’t seen any pictures of what damage she did to him. With that said, I don’t care to hear about the argument about how she provoked him because the end result is still the same.

I, like many other people are over what happened. Hell, I could really careless that they’re back together. I mean it was obvious that they were anyway. With the amount of people trying to pry into RiRi and Chris Brown’s private lives; how about they make an effort to stop contributing to people’s desire to do so by publicly displaying everything about their private lives. However, I’m sure that’s not a real solution because that’s not what they truly want to do. They enjoy the spotlight, and will bask in it as long as they can, and as long as people hold the light in their direction. My thing is don’t complain about something, and turn around and contribute to it. Actions DO speak LOUDER than words. And that’s all I have to say about that.

This is just my opinion. So, for all you Breezy fans out there don’t get…

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