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Prevent the Valentine’s Day Blues

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As Valentine’s Day approaches, I’ve noticed an increase in bitter and sad status updates. Valentine’s Day can really bring out the bad in people. Although I’m probably preaching to the choir about this, there really is no need to be so down and out on Valentine’s Day. I’ve gone several years without having a Valentine. While I will admit that when I was younger, it did make me sad that I was missing out. However, as an adult without a Valentine, I didn’t allow the Hallmark holiday to get me down. I have been blessed to have a Valentine for the past 3 years, but before then I would think of things to do to keep my spirits high. With that said, I’ve come up with a list of 5 things you can do to prevent the Valentine’s Day Blues.

1. Send a gift or flowers to a friend who doesn’t have a Valentine. Giving is always better than receiving, and if you have a good heart, this will be an easy way to keep you happy on V-Day.

2. Go out with some friends, who don’t have Valentines either, for dinner/drinks. When you’re having a fun, who has time to think about other things that don’t really matter?

3. Steer clear of social media sites if they’re going to make you sad. People will be posting status updates and uploading pictures. So, if you can’t handle it, stay away.  I remember one year I read a status update where this girl posed the question, “I wonder what it feels like not having a Valentine?” I’m sure that struck a chord with a lot of her “Facebook friends”. You should know that I don’t believe she’s had a Valentine since then. However, not everyone posting on Valentine’s Day is trying to hurt those who don’t have a Valentine, but again, if someone’s happiness is going to bring you down, don’t login. If it doesn’t bother you, proceed as normal.

4. Do something nice for yourself. I’ve heard of women sending flowers to themselves. You can do that or buy yourself a nice gift. I love getting a pedicure, so that could be something you treat yourself to.

5. Make a mental note that Valentine’s Day is only one day in the year. While you may not have a significant other to shower you with love, and gifts on this particular day, you have other people around you that love you everyday of the year. Gifts and flowers don’t equal love, emotions and actions do.

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I am THANKFUL

Thanksgiving is just two days away! I definitely look forward to eating, and spending time with my loved ones. In light of the holiday, I decided to make a list of the top 5 things I am thankful for. Trust me, I have a lot more to be thankful for, but for the purpose of this post, I will limit it to 5.

1. I am thankful for the many blessings and mercy God has shown me in my life.

2. I am thankful for my family. They are my backbone, and have provided me with a strong foundation. Our bond is  impenetrable.

3. I am thankful for my true friends. My true friends are supportive of me, and put in as much effort to preserve our friendship as I do.

4. I am thankful for the young man in my life. Love is a beautiful thing.

5. I am thankful for the necessities in life, i.e. a job, car, home, and food. These are the basic things that so many people take for granted. I don’t. Life is unpredictable, and any of these things can be taken away. Cherish the things you do have, and work hard for the things you don’t.

People who live the most fulfilling lives are the ones who are always rejoicing at what they have. —Richard Carlson

What are some of the things you’re thankful for?

 

Obligated to vote?

I currently reside in the state of Florida, and today is the last day to register to vote before the upcoming election in November. I’ve been a registered voter since 8/24/2004, and have always exercised my right to vote.

I recently had a brief conversation with a co-worker who said she probably won’t vote because  she’s confused about who to vote for. I told her that she should do research on each candidate, and vote for the person she thinks will best represent her lifestyle and values.

It is extremely difficult to do research on a particular candidate without coming across information that is misleading or bias. The media and researchers have developed skills to mask their bias, and have put the inquirers in an unfortunate situation. Politics is and has always been a very heavy topic. It’s easier to make a stand in support of or against something that you’re informed about, but when information is misrepresented, it can be very hard for people to formulate a well-informed opinion. So, I encourage people to not only research their candidates, but also commit to doing research about where and how that research was compiled. We all know that FOX News and MSNBC are two of the most bias media outlets out there. I would not rely on either of these stations to become a well-informed voter. You have to dig deeper than the surface to find out which candidate you should vote for.

Now, I know there are a ton of people who truly  believe that their vote means nothing. I know there is no way to persuade you to think differently in that regard, but if you are anything other than a white male, at some point in history your race or gender was not entitled to vote. If  those who governed America outlawed women, African-Americans, Hispanics, Asians, etc. from voting, then that form of expression must mean something. Yes, voting and who we elect has changed over the years. However, the essence of why we do it has not changed. Not to mention, people have fought, died and put their lives on the line to ensure that all those who come after them would have the right to vote. So, whether or not you think your vote matters, you should still exercise your right because for many of us, it hasn’t always been an option.

If you’re not registered to vote, be sure to find out when your state’s voter registration deadline is. While registering to vote is the first step, make sure you send in your absentee ballot, vote by mail, or show up at the polls. See the process all the way through!

www.gottavote.org

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