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Lesson Learned

friendship dead endIn life we are often thrown curve balls. I in no way ever feel bitter or resentful because of this. I know with each curve ball thrown, there’s a lesson to be learned. With that said, I have definitely learned a valuable lesson when it comes to people we may at one time or another considered to be a friend.

Over the years, I, like many other people, have lost friendships. However, I never look at these situations as a loss because I truly believe that some people are not meant to be your friend forever. I will admit that I may have been the cause of some of these lost friendships. I am no way naive to that factor; however, I can also say that the person I presented myself as in the beginning is the person I will remain to be throughout all my relationships and friendships. That being said, I feel that the lessons I learn come from the friendships that I don’t necessarily receive a forewarning. Some people are very good at masking their identities, and portraying themselves as something they obviously aren’t. While most of these people are hard to detect, with time, their true colors will seep through.

I feel that God has blessed me with the ability to be a good judge in character. Thinking back, I am almost never shocked by the actions of other people whom of which I have or had a relationship/friendship with. The way that I’m most affected is through my feelings. Although people often show who they are through their actions rather than their words, I often give people the benefit of the doubt and turn the other cheek. I prefer to look for the good in people. Call it a flaw or what have you, but this is who I am.

I’m writing this post mainly because I’ve decided going into this new year to leave some people behind and wanted to share my perspective. A few people who I’ve considered to be friends, not necessarily best friends, have shown their true colors. Their lack of regard for our friendship were shown at times that left a lasting impression and a clear understanding of the type of friend they truly were. Whether it’s difficult or not, some times we have to make these kind of decisions. At the time, we may not understand, but it’s truly beneficial to let go of the negative in our lives so that we fully enjoy the positive things that life has to offer. Life is too short, and you never know when it’s your time to go. So, you should make the best of it, and allow it to be filled with things and people who bring you joy.

My words of advice are to distance yourself from people who don’t positively contribute to your life. As I mentioned before, it’s a hard decision to make, but in the end, you’ll see the positive difference it will make.

Shawty Lo & All His Babies’ Mamas


Well, as you all may be aware, Shawty Lo is expected to star in a new reality show titled, “All My Babies’ Mamas.” The new reality show, still in the planning stages, is set to run on Oxygen. It’s supposed to highlight the rapper’s life with his 10 babies’ mamas and current girlfriend, who is allegedly 19-years-old. Needless to say, I’ve developed some opinions about this topic.

Oxygen is only following suit of other networks airing reality shows. Not to say that should be a reason to air these types of programs, but we are all aware that the more drama there is, the more people will be inclined to watch. I don’t care what anyone says about that. It’s the way TV works. It’s a business, and ratings equal dollars. Television networks don’t care about the kind of trash they air on their respective channels because it’s about money. We all know that drama, violence, and sex sells. So, with Oxygen choosing to pilot this new show, it shouldn’t be a shock.

As far as the show is concerned, I’ve definitely developed some preliminary thoughts…

My first issue is that Shawty Lo has fathered 11 children with 10 different women. That’s disgusting. It shows that he has had unprotected sex with at least (and I do emphasize at least) 10 different women. Statistically speaking, someone had to contract something. It also shows what type of man he is, and that he has no respect for women. However, that conclusion could also be derived from his rap lyrics.

My second issue is with the women, if they were aware of each other. What would possess a woman to have a child by someone who already has 10 other children with at least 9 different women? Now, I’m not sure if the women were aware of each other, but if they were then that’s definitely degrading.

Both of the aforementioned points can also be attributed to people’s stance on marriage, and family.We are definitely living in a different time. Once upon a time, a lot more men and women wanted to be married before procreating, and wouldn’t even consider bringing a child into the world without exchanging vows. However, I won’t go off on a tangent…

I understand that many people are upset because they believe this to be a misrepresentation of the black community. However, I don’t think that we should allow these type of shows to dictate what represents the black community or any community at that. With that said, I ask, do shows like Honey Boo Boo and Shahs of Sunsets represent the community of the people starring in them? Shows like the Real Housewives of Atlanta, and All My Babies’ Mamas represent the people involved. My family, immediate and extended, are nothing like the families shown on these shows. If the people who view these shows choose to categorize every person belonging to a particular culture because of what was shown on television then they’re ignorant.

If the reason behind Shawty Lo and his 10 babies’ mamas getting together is for the children then I’d have to say that’s commendable; however, it definitely could have been done in private. The children are innocent, and I think it’s only fair for them to be given the opportunity to develop relationships with their brothers and sisters.

I do plan to watch the special so that I can give a more substantial opinion about the show. These are just my preliminary thoughts, and I definitely encourage you to share yours!

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