As Valentine’s Day approaches, I’ve noticed an increase in bitter and sad status updates. Valentine’s Day can really bring out the bad in people. Although I’m probably preaching to the choir about this, there really is no need to be so down and out on Valentine’s Day. I’ve gone several years without having a Valentine. While I will admit that when I was younger, it did make me sad that I was missing out. However, as an adult without a Valentine, I didn’t allow the Hallmark holiday to get me down. I have been blessed to have a Valentine for the past 3 years, but before then I would think of things to do to keep my spirits high. With that said, I’ve come up with a list of 5 things you can do to prevent the Valentine’s Day Blues.
1. Send a gift or flowers to a friend who doesn’t have a Valentine. Giving is always better than receiving, and if you have a good heart, this will be an easy way to keep you happy on V-Day.
2. Go out with some friends, who don’t have Valentines either, for dinner/drinks. When you’re having a fun, who has time to think about other things that don’t really matter?
3. Steer clear of social media sites if they’re going to make you sad. People will be posting status updates and uploading pictures. So, if you can’t handle it, stay away. I remember one year I read a status update where this girl posed the question, “I wonder what it feels like not having a Valentine?” I’m sure that struck a chord with a lot of her “Facebook friends”. You should know that I don’t believe she’s had a Valentine since then. However, not everyone posting on Valentine’s Day is trying to hurt those who don’t have a Valentine, but again, if someone’s happiness is going to bring you down, don’t login. If it doesn’t bother you, proceed as normal.
4. Do something nice for yourself. I’ve heard of women sending flowers to themselves. You can do that or buy yourself a nice gift. I love getting a pedicure, so that could be something you treat yourself to.
5. Make a mental note that Valentine’s Day is only one day in the year. While you may not have a significant other to shower you with love, and gifts on this particular day, you have other people around you that love you everyday of the year. Gifts and flowers don’t equal love, emotions and actions do.
We are all aware that Valentine’s Day is a Hallmark holiday. Not to mention, this holiday is definitely more geared toward women. Regardless of what we might think of the holiday, it’s not going anywhere. It’s here to stay. Now, I know there are a lot of men who are scrambling, trying to get things in order to show their woman that they get it. So, I’ve decided to help those who are hopeless, and don’t get it. Below, I’ve outlined 5 Tips for Valentine’s Day.
If you don’t do anything else, please send/give flowers to your woman. Nothing says “I love you” like a nice bouquet of red roses, and a card from the heart. For those who aren’t in-love just yet, send/give pink roses instead. I personally don’t know a woman who doesn’t like flowers, or reading a card that is sentimental. This will be the setup for whatever else you have planned for your lady.
The gift(s) you choose are very important. The gift will show how much thought you put into making sure you’re woman is happy. Fellas, do not, I repeat, do not, get your woman a practical gift. Get her something she wants, not needs. If you were thinking about buying her a coffee maker or a pot set, forget about it; unless she specifically requests something practical. Gift baskets, spa treatments, and jewelry always make great gifts. However, you know what your woman likes. So, get something you know will make her happy. And no, it doesn’t have to be super expensive.
Do something memorable. That’s what these Hallmark holidays are about. Don’t just settle for the old dinner and a movie Valentine’s Day. There are so many things you two can do; try something new. Depending on your budget, you can go on a helicopter ride, or setup a picnic in the park. Whatever you decide, you should try to top the plans you had last Valentine’s Day.
This should come as a no-brainier. Fellas, when it’s time to go out, make sure you look dapper. I know a lot of women like when their men make a point to look good for them. Whether it be a fresh haircut, or a nice shirt, do come dressed to impress (your woman that is). You already know that your woman is going to look fly, so make sure you do too.
While, gifts, flowers, and cards are all very nice things. Nothing tops off a romantic evening like passion and heartfelt gestures. I’m not saying you should be a total sap, but you should express your feelings through words, and physical gestures, like hugs and kisses. Little compliments go along way. Trust me on this guys!
Follow these 5 Tips, and you will not fail this Valentine’s Day! Who knows; you might even get lucky. 😉
***NOTE: I know some of you may have just started dating the woman who you’re with. Please don’t think that you should skip out on spoiling your woman on Valentine’s Day. I’m not saying that you have to be as elaborate on your first Valentine’s Day together as you would on your 5th. However, you should do something that is memorable, and shows that you look forward to your future together.
Here’s a couple of links to give you ideas for Valentine’s Day gifts and dates.
This was the second time I participated in the American Cancer Society annual breast cancer walk. I was so humbled by my experience in last year’s walk that I decided to make a commitment to participate in the Making Strides Against Breast Cancer walk each year.
I am unsure how much money I raised last year, but it probably was under $50. I knew I could do better than that, so this year I set a goal of $100. During the last week of fundraising, I met and surpassed that goal. The fact that so many people were willing to help me attain a goal was also very humbling. I’m glad that I was able to contribute to the cause.
While many people would assume that I participate because I know someone or was directly affected by breast cancer. I don’t know anyone personally who has lost the fight, or has become a survivor. This is why I participate. When I read or hear about the stories of women who have overcome, and those who haven’t, I am moved. I’m not just moved because it’s sad, but because at any time my mom, my sister, my aunt or I could discover a lump in one of our breasts. Breast Cancer does not discriminate. As a woman, I feel compelled to do what I can to help someone else’s mom, someone else’s sister, someone else’s aunt, or someone else. This disease affects so many women (and men) every year. I’ve been blessed to have not had it affect me or my loved ones, and I’d like to keep it that way.
This year’s walk was no different from the last. I was again humbled by the experience. I saw women, men and children all walking for a common purpose. Thousands of people, survivors and families of lost loved ones, all walking against breast cancer. It was a beautiful sight to see that many people from all backgrounds, economic classes, educational levels, and ages gather for such an important cause. We all walked 3 miles together and finished 3 miles together.
Life isn’t just about what we can do for ourselves; it’s also about what we can do for others. Find a cause that speaks to you, and look for ways to contribute. It will make life that much more purposeful.
Hey Tyla Times Fans! Here is the Fit of the Week.
I wore this outfit while in Atlanta for an early birthday celebration. I chose to accent with pink because of an outfit worn by Rasheeda on Love and Hip Hop Atlanta. I like this outfit because it’s an old-school look, with a modern twist. I was completely comfortable, something that seems to be given up when dressing up for a night on the town (A bigger picture can be seen at Alltheparties.com).
Pink Blazer: Thrifted
Black Racer Back Crop Top: H&M
Steve Madden Pink Wedges: TJ Maxx
Black Clutch: Thrifted
Bracelet: Flea Market