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Steubenville Rape

imagesThe verdict is in. The two young boys involved in the rape of a 16-year-old drunken girl have been found guilty.Trent Mays and Ma’lik Richmond inserted their fingers in a girl who was unable to consent. In the state of Ohio, this is considered rape. Mays may have to serve a minimum of two years in a juvenile detention center, and Richmond will have to serve a minimum of one. Both boys will have to register as sex offenders, and undergo treatment while in detention. There’s a possibility that the boys will stay longer, but it’s dependent on their behavior and treatment.

After reading several articles on this matter, I have a lot of things floating around in my head. For instance, why are these kids getting plastered, and who is supplying the alcohol? I hope there is further investigation into where these kids were able to purchase the booze, and who was supplying it the minors. None of the neighbors thought to call the police to report an unsupervised house party full of underage drinking teenagers? In college, plenty of parties were shut down by the police, and most of us could drink legally. The adults who supplied the alcohol should definitely be held accountable. Another thing I don’t understand is how these boys didn’t understand that what they were doing was wrong. Have they never watched a single episode of Law & Order SVU???  In high school I learned that a drunken person cannot give consent. So, I can’t imagine that they were completely oblivious to that simple fact. If by some mere chance they didn’t know, why would they want to do sexual things to someone who wasn’t coherent? Something else that I just don’t get is that the victim is being blamed. How wretched is that?  I read an article that included comments made on a social media account belonging to a Deidre Myers’ about how the girl who was raped, was the town’s “train whore”. I guess being promiscuous gives people the right to take advantage of you. Furthermore, people witnessed the attacks and pictures/video of the encounter were uploaded to social media sites. So, everyone was okay with this? No one thought it was wrong? It doesn’t make sense. People can’t be that ignorant. Can they?

largeThe more I read about this case, the more I am deeply disgusted. The parent of an old friend of the rape victim allegedly said publicly that she hoped the girl got AIDS. Seriously? How could a a MOTHER say that? This young girl’s life will never be the same. Never. In my opinion, these boys are lucky that they weren’t tried as adults and sent to prison. Granted they have to register as sex offenders forever, but they should have to suffer some real consequences. Their lives should be rattled just like the victim’s was. I believe that people reap what they sow. So, all of these people lashing out at the victim, adults and teens included, will get what they deserve. One should never wish ill on anyone else. It’s not humane nor is moral. Two teenage girls were just arrested for making online threats against the victim. Dumb move by the girls; smart move by the police. I wonder if the people who support these boys and their actions have some intense desire to belong? Are the football players and those who are connected to them held with such high regard that people will disregard what’s right in order to fit in and be accepted? In this case, it definitely looks like it.

It appears that it’s an either “for us or against us” mentality in this community. I’ve read over and over about how this community compares to Friday Night Lights. If that’s the case, I’m worried that this isn’t the first time this has happened. Social Media has only been playing a major role in the lives of our youth for a few years. So, what’s happened there before Twitter and Facebook became mainstream? Needless to say, victims probably won’t want to speak up now because of all the  garbage thrown at the victim. No need to further divide this community over the God-given rights of individuals, right? It breaks my heart that things like this happen. I didn’t have to read about particular case to know that situations like this happen all the time. However, I can appreciate that light was shed on this case, and maybe it will help people get a better grasp on the world we live in. Maybe this case will even make people want to change things about their lives and their community.

To end on a positive note, I want to say that it was very commendable of the people who spoke out on behalf of the rape victim, and those who brought attention to this case. There is good in this world. Not to mention, it was very brave and courageous for the girl to take the stand even if she didn’t recall what happened that evening (thankfully social media did). I hope she gets the help she needs to help her live a prosperous life.PS_0

Here’s more on the Steubenville rape case:

http://abcnews.go.com/2020/steubenville-rape-case-story-heard/story?id=18705357

http://www.cnn.com/2013/03/17/justice/ohio-steubenville-case/index.html

http://www.theatlanticwire.com/national/2013/01/steubenville-high-football-rape-crew/60554/

http://thelede.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/03/18/how-blogger-helped-steubenville-rape-case-unfold-online/

RiRi & Breezy Official

brown1Recently, Rihanna has come forth confirming her relationship with Chris Brown. No big surprise there. An official confirmation, in my opinion, wasn’t necessary. It was quite obvious that the two has rekindled their flame for some time now. Not to mention, there are constant uploads to RiRi’s Instagram account with pictures of her and Brown in intimate positions.

The pair’s actions have been screaming for attention, which is quite contradictory to what they say in the media. Rihanna and C.B. even paired up for her last album to create the song, Nobody’s Business. The thing is that with all the attention they’re trying to create for themselves, they’re doing just the opposite of what they supposedly want people to do. Yeah, it’s nobody’s business, but yet their actions show that they want the world to be in their business. If a celebrity really wants to have some kind of private romantic life, it’s hard, but possible.

I will say that I do like both artists’ music, but other than that I could careless about either one, more so Chris Brown. I don’t think he’s learned a lesson, and that he’s this new and improved person. Since the incident, he’s gotten into fights with other celebrities, thrown chairs, and never shy of a Twitter rant full of expletives. It appears that he has an anger issue. Yeah, yeah. I get the whole ‘he’s human’ thing, but other humans who have been in a domestic abuse situation have made noticeable changes in their lives. In my opinion, it doesn’t appear that he has.

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Now, what bothers me about Rihanna is that I don’t believe she ever wanted to leave him in the first place. I think she only did it because the media was coming down on her and her image. I am willing to bet that she hasn’t stopped communicating with him since the incident. Why take everyone through this roller coaster ride, knowing that you never wanted to leave his side in the beginning? I don’t think you can really get over a person, if that’s what you intend, by continuing to communicate and be around that person. So, in my opinion, I don’t think getting over him and moving on with her life is what she intended to do.

No one knows what happened back in 2009, but the end result was that Rihanna got beat up badly. We don’t know if she provoked him, which is possible, but what we do know is that the beating she got was violent. It wasn’t just one or two punches, or a push. Brown hit her repeatedly, and I haven’t seen any pictures of what damage she did to him. With that said, I don’t care to hear about the argument about how she provoked him because the end result is still the same.

I, like many other people are over what happened. Hell, I could really careless that they’re back together. I mean it was obvious that they were anyway. With the amount of people trying to pry into RiRi and Chris Brown’s private lives; how about they make an effort to stop contributing to people’s desire to do so by publicly displaying everything about their private lives. However, I’m sure that’s not a real solution because that’s not what they truly want to do. They enjoy the spotlight, and will bask in it as long as they can, and as long as people hold the light in their direction. My thing is don’t complain about something, and turn around and contribute to it. Actions DO speak LOUDER than words. And that’s all I have to say about that.

This is just my opinion. So, for all you Breezy fans out there don’t get…

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Love & Hip Hop ATL [Update Numero Tres ]

The last three episodes were of course filled with a ton of drama and craziness. I decided the easiest way to share my opinions would be  to do a breakdown by relationships.

Karlie & Benzino: I don’t understand their relationship at all. I’d like to know how much time lapses between episodes. Because their relationship is going quite quickly! A key to the house? Really?! And now he’s planning to propose? Whatever happen to a courtship? Dating? Waiting? Honestly, I don’t see their relationship lasting very long. However, I will agree with Benzino and how he feels about Karlie Redd always bringing up her career. I would get upset about that too, especially if it seems like that’s all we talk about it. I am interested in knowing where exactly her “career” is as well.

Stevie J., Joseline & Mimi: This love triangle is just stupid, and everyone involved is stupid. Joseline isn’t going to move on, which is known because of her conversation with Karlie Redd. Mimi is so stuck on being a family that she is willing to sacrifice what’s best for her. I understand that women in particular, would like to have their family in tact. However, if keeping the family together is unhealthy for those involved, it would be better to let it go and move on. A child can still grow up to be a productive adult even if his or her parents aren’t together. It happens everyday. I must say that I think it was very touching that Mimi shared her dedication to her mother with the world though. Stevie J is a hazard to himself and everyone he deals with. He has some serious issues, and needs to be left alone. I am glad that he got roughed up by Joseline, although it was for nothing because she’s going to return to him. I don’t buy into that whole “I don’t have a mother. So, I’m going to treat women bad” bid either. Stevie J is a womanizing liar and is just trying come up with a reason to excuse his behavior.

The Therapist: Who is this guy?! Was he recommended? Seriously, where did he come from? After watching Stevie J and Mimi in their session, I had to really wonder if that is how therapy goes. 

Karlie Redd & Joseline: This friendship came out of nowhere, at least to me. They had so much drama between them, and now they’re going rock climbing together. To each his or her own, I guess. I just think that of all the meetups between people beefing, it’s ironic that this was the only one that was successful. Well, maybe it’s because they’re the outcasts of the group. Who knows?

Erica, Scrappy & Shay: Scrappy has no idea what he wants in life. Erica is well in her right to be skeptical of their relationship or lack thereof. Scrappy needs to be by himself for a while, so that he can figure things out. However, I don’t think that is going to happen, especially since Erica said that he can’t be by himself. I like Erica a lot. I think she is genuine, but has her weaknesses. When she cried and asked Scrappy how he would feel if a guy treated their daughter the same way he treats her, that broke my heart. That question should have really struck a nerve with Scrappy; I’m not sure that it did. Shay is so naive. She seems to be completely oblivious to the relationship Scrappy has with Erica. I’m not sure if she chooses to be that way, or if she just can’t put two and two together.

Mama D: I am quite happy that Scrappy corrected her about referring to the mother of her grandchild as a bitch. I think she was totally out of line. I can definitely appreciate him for speaking up. She obviously has issues though. I mean she misspelled bitch and I’m not sure if they edited out her correcting herself, but it didn’t appear that she realized her error.

K. Michelle: I think she has some serious issues. However, I do believe that she was abused by Memphitz. I absolutely do not condone violence against anyone, but I think she was having a crazy K. Michelle episode and pushed all of his buttons. Although it can happen, I don’t think he just all of a sudden start beating her. I wish we could get the entire story, but that will never happen. At the end of the day, I sympathize with her because she is a survivor. Whether or not she said something or did something to provoke him, he should have had enough self-control to walk away from the situation.

Rasheeda & Kirk: I love these two. While the content of their trials and tribulations may not be common, the way they handle them as  married couple deserves kudos. No one is perfect, but they always seem to come to a common ground when it comes to their relationship. It surprised me that Rasheeda decided to keep Kirk as her manager. I thought that was very admirable of her. Her ability to switch between the many roles she plays is awesome and worth taking note of. Even though Rasheeda is one of my two favorite characters, I’m a little uneasy on the way she handled the meeting with K. Michelle. I believe she should have asked K. Michelle her side of the story and then explained to K. Michelle her relationship with Toya & Memphitz.

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