As Valentine’s Day approaches, I’ve noticed an increase in bitter and sad status updates. Valentine’s Day can really bring out the bad in people. Although I’m probably preaching to the choir about this, there really is no need to be so down and out on Valentine’s Day. I’ve gone several years without having a Valentine. While I will admit that when I was younger, it did make me sad that I was missing out. However, as an adult without a Valentine, I didn’t allow the Hallmark holiday to get me down. I have been blessed to have a Valentine for the past 3 years, but before then I would think of things to do to keep my spirits high. With that said, I’ve come up with a list of 5 things you can do to prevent the Valentine’s Day Blues.
1. Send a gift or flowers to a friend who doesn’t have a Valentine. Giving is always better than receiving, and if you have a good heart, this will be an easy way to keep you happy on V-Day.
2. Go out with some friends, who don’t have Valentines either, for dinner/drinks. When you’re having a fun, who has time to think about other things that don’t really matter?
3. Steer clear of social media sites if they’re going to make you sad. People will be posting status updates and uploading pictures. So, if you can’t handle it, stay away. I remember one year I read a status update where this girl posed the question, “I wonder what it feels like not having a Valentine?” I’m sure that struck a chord with a lot of her “Facebook friends”. You should know that I don’t believe she’s had a Valentine since then. However, not everyone posting on Valentine’s Day is trying to hurt those who don’t have a Valentine, but again, if someone’s happiness is going to bring you down, don’t login. If it doesn’t bother you, proceed as normal.
4. Do something nice for yourself. I’ve heard of women sending flowers to themselves. You can do that or buy yourself a nice gift. I love getting a pedicure, so that could be something you treat yourself to.
5. Make a mental note that Valentine’s Day is only one day in the year. While you may not have a significant other to shower you with love, and gifts on this particular day, you have other people around you that love you everyday of the year. Gifts and flowers don’t equal love, emotions and actions do.
We are all aware that Valentine’s Day is a Hallmark holiday. Not to mention, this holiday is definitely more geared toward women. Regardless of what we might think of the holiday, it’s not going anywhere. It’s here to stay. Now, I know there are a lot of men who are scrambling, trying to get things in order to show their woman that they get it. So, I’ve decided to help those who are hopeless, and don’t get it. Below, I’ve outlined 5 Tips for Valentine’s Day.
If you don’t do anything else, please send/give flowers to your woman. Nothing says “I love you” like a nice bouquet of red roses, and a card from the heart. For those who aren’t in-love just yet, send/give pink roses instead. I personally don’t know a woman who doesn’t like flowers, or reading a card that is sentimental. This will be the setup for whatever else you have planned for your lady.
The gift(s) you choose are very important. The gift will show how much thought you put into making sure you’re woman is happy. Fellas, do not, I repeat, do not, get your woman a practical gift. Get her something she wants, not needs. If you were thinking about buying her a coffee maker or a pot set, forget about it; unless she specifically requests something practical. Gift baskets, spa treatments, and jewelry always make great gifts. However, you know what your woman likes. So, get something you know will make her happy. And no, it doesn’t have to be super expensive.
Do something memorable. That’s what these Hallmark holidays are about. Don’t just settle for the old dinner and a movie Valentine’s Day. There are so many things you two can do; try something new. Depending on your budget, you can go on a helicopter ride, or setup a picnic in the park. Whatever you decide, you should try to top the plans you had last Valentine’s Day.
This should come as a no-brainier. Fellas, when it’s time to go out, make sure you look dapper. I know a lot of women like when their men make a point to look good for them. Whether it be a fresh haircut, or a nice shirt, do come dressed to impress (your woman that is). You already know that your woman is going to look fly, so make sure you do too.
While, gifts, flowers, and cards are all very nice things. Nothing tops off a romantic evening like passion and heartfelt gestures. I’m not saying you should be a total sap, but you should express your feelings through words, and physical gestures, like hugs and kisses. Little compliments go along way. Trust me on this guys!
Follow these 5 Tips, and you will not fail this Valentine’s Day! Who knows; you might even get lucky. 😉
***NOTE: I know some of you may have just started dating the woman who you’re with. Please don’t think that you should skip out on spoiling your woman on Valentine’s Day. I’m not saying that you have to be as elaborate on your first Valentine’s Day together as you would on your 5th. However, you should do something that is memorable, and shows that you look forward to your future together.
Here’s a couple of links to give you ideas for Valentine’s Day gifts and dates.
I, like many Americans turned into the 2013 Presidential Inauguration. I must say that I was quite pleased with how it turned out. It was truly a historical day within this historical year. This year marks both the 150th anniversary of the signing of the Emancipation of Proclamation and the 50th anniversary of Martin Luther’s King Jr.’s “I have a dream…” speech.
The President and the first family looked quite dapper I absolutely loved Michelle’s new hairstyle, and I thought her dress fully embodied who she believes herself to be. President Barack Obama had a beautiful glow to go along with his well-fitted suit. Vice President Joe Biden also looked to be glowing, and extremely happy to be there. His wife also looked wonderful.
As the cameras scanned the crowd, I couldn’t help to feel joyed by what I witnessed. There were so many different types of people. One thing that I do believe is that the President is able to reach people from different backgrounds on a much broader level. Something that I don’t think Gov. Romney could have ever done. That is the kind of president the United States needs to have continuously, and I think this in part is why President Obama was elected in 2008, and again in 2012.
The Inauguration program was wonderful. The invocation was excellent, and the Brooklyn Tabernacle Choir was amazing! I was pleased when Republican Sen. Lamar Alexander referenced Alex Haley, the author of Roots, by quoting the six words Haley lived by, “Find the Good and Praise It.” The President’s speech was great. I liked how he referenced our (American) history, while sharing his platform and what he plans to continue to do as our President. I can also appreciate that he spoke about how things need to change, but not without taking steps and people making a contribution to those changes. He also repeated “We the People”, and I think that was definitely noteworthy In other words, I thought it was a great speech. Kelly Clarkson did an outstanding job, and Beyonce did a wonderful job, too. I actually had to listen to the poem twice. The first time I was a little lost, but after the second hearing, I can say that it was a well-written poem. It was very touching, and relatable. The benediction was great! I absolutely loved the fact that he prayed over ALL his children, and not just certain groups of people.
Overall, I’m happy that I had the opportunity watch the 2013 Presidential Inauguration. In the future, I’d recommend to those who haven’t watched one to do so. It’s a very important tradition in our country, and should be experienced whether in person or not.
I love this navy blue shirt, and salmon pink blazer. When I put this outfit together, I was going to wear a red blazer, but I decided to step outside the box. I chose the salmon pink blazer, well, because it’s my favorite and I think it looks good with navy blue. I chose the anchor necklace because I’ve always associated navy blue with anchors for obvious reasons. I really like this outfit because I’m comfortable, it’s versatile, and different. I could have easily stayed in the norm, and wore red, but I wanted to try something new.
Navy Blue Shirt: Forever 21
Khaki Pants: New York & Company
Wedges: Shoe Connection
Clutch: Charming Charlie